When going through a divorce, one of the last things you want to do sometimes is cooperate with your co-parent. You often feel wronged, angry and hurt, which makes it hard to get on the same page.
Despite this, however, cooperation is one of the things that might help you ease your child through the hard process of accepting their parents’ divorce. But how do the two link?
Benefits for your child
Psychology Today examines the ways you can make divorce easier for your child to accept. Among the top of the list: cooperating with your co-parent. Despite the fact that this sounds relatively easy on paper, anyone going through divorce knows how hard it actually is.
But it can serve as beneficial to both you and your child. For your child, it gives them a sense of stability. They will see that no matter what hardships you go through, you can still prioritize their well-being. It also makes you and your co-parent seem more mature and capable of working through disagreements as level-headed adults. This allows them to put their trust in you, which eliminates several common concerns children have about divorce, such as fear of changes in the future.
Benefits for you
As for you and your co-parent, it gives you more control over how you interact with your child through the split. You can keep an eye on one another, ensuring neither of you begins to color the narrative, which can lead to issues like parental alienation. It also lets you plan out your discussions in advance and get any arguments out of the way before taking it to your child. Arguing in front of your child is a main source of stress during divorce for them and you should avoid it at all costs. Just this one tip alone can help smooth the process to a large degree.