If you and your spouse have decided to part ways, but you worry about how a divorce might impact your children, you are not alone. Indeed, this is one of the top concerns that people have when they end their marriages.
The good news is, there are things you can do to make the situation less difficult for your son or daughter.
1. Share feelings
Often, divorce is painful for the whole family. For this reason, encouraging kids to talk openly about their feelings can provide them with a healthy way for figuring out any complicated emotions they may have. Make an effort to validate what they say, and help them talk about anything confusing.
2. Practice civility
Although a divorce can be a challenging time for everyone it impacts, taking the high road and limiting negativity between you and your spouse can make the transition easier for children. In addition, keeping both parents in the life of a child can prevent him or her from feeling like one parent is disappearing from the picture. Remember, your children are seeing the divorce as you present it. The story you tell can say a lot about the story they hear and create for themselves.
3. Reduce stress
Sometimes, stress is inevitable. That said, you have the power to make the situation better or worse by how you choose to respond to it. If you find that you are personally struggling, make sure to seek out the support of friends, family or therapy so the tension does not linger around you at home. Additionally, maintain regular schedules and routines wherever you can to keep things as normal as possible.
Even though divorce can be difficult, there are ways you can make yours easier on your children.